By Torna Li, Psy.D. | Regional Clinical Director
The holiday season can be a challenging time for individuals in recovery. Family and friends are crucial in providing support and encouragement during this period. Here are some tips on how to support your loved one during the holidays:
- Acknowledge the Challenge: Recognize that holidays can be stressful for people in recovery due to increased social pressures, emotions, and potential triggers.
- If your loved one seems less engaged during the holidays, remember they might be facing extra stress. Don’t take it personally. Share your holiday spirit in a meaningful way, but keep invitations open and without pressure.
- Communication tip: Check in with your loved one and ask how they’re feeling about the holidays.
- Keep Open Communication: Invite open, judgment-free conversations with your loved one about their recovery needs, including triggers, boundaries, and any specific support they may want.
- Create a supportive, judgment-free space for your loved one to discuss their needs – if they want to. Approach these talks with curiosity to better understand their needs. Keep in mind that comfort with open communication varies for everyone, including yourself.
- Communication tip: Ask “How are you doing, do you need anything from me?” or “Is there something you’d like me to understand to best support you?” Or “Is there anything you want me to say or do to help?”
- Provide Emotional Support: Be a listening ear, offer encouragement, and show empathy. Just being there can make a big difference.
- Validating your loved one’s feelings can go a long way – you don’t always need to offer advice or a plan.
- Communication tip: Simply ask “Would you like to talk about how you’re feeling right now?” or “I’m here to listen if you’d like to chat.”
- Encourage Meetings & Recovery Support: Be supportive if your loved one wants to attend meetings or reach out to their support network, even if it means stepping away from holiday events.
- Planning self-care days or breaks from holiday events can help loved ones maintain a recovery-supporting routine.
- Communication tip: Consider asking, “Would you like to attend meetings or connect with your sponsor or support group during the holidays?” Or, “Is there anything you can do, or avoid doing, to stay grounded during this time?”
By following these tips, you can support your loved one in navigating the holiday season with strength and resilience. Remember, recovery is a journey, and your support can make a significant difference. If you or a loved one is struggling this holiday season, we are always here if you need us. Call 888-991-7351.
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