By Torna Li, Psy.D. | Regional Clinical Director
The holiday season brings joy and togetherness, yet it can pose unique challenges for those supporting loved ones in recovery. Balancing care and empathy with healthy boundaries is key to keeping things positive for everyone involved. Self-care is equally vital, allowing you to offer encouragement and stability without exhausting your emotional and physical resources. By creating a supportive, sober-friendly environment and honoring personal limits, you can help foster a season of growth and hope.
- Establish & Respect Boundaries: Help your loved one set healthy boundaries, especially around topics or people that may lead to stress or negative emotions.
- Planning which topics, people, or events to engage with can help reduce stress and avoid triggers. While we can’t control every situation, setting boundaries can help your loved one.
- Communication tip: Try asking, “Are there any topics to avoid?” or “Which subjects are you comfortable discussing?” You could also say, “Is there an exit plan I can support?”
- Set Realistic Expectations: Plan holiday events with understanding and flexibility. Keep expectations manageable and avoid stress. Understand that your loved one may need to leave if they feel uncomfortable.
- Our loved ones may not always realize they can take a step back without facing judgment or criticism.
- Communication tip: Try saying “If you need to step away from time-to-time, or altogether, please do so,” or “You’re welcome to come back anytime,” or “Don’t feel like you always need to be available, you can say no at any time.”
- Create a Sober-Friendly Environment: Consider hosting alcohol-free gatherings, or create designated sober spaces and activities that make the person feel comfortable and included.
- Plan activities that don’t involve alcohol to create an inclusive environment for your loved one. Try puzzles, building gingerbread houses, decorating for the holidays, playing board games, etc.
- Communication tip: If alcohol will be present, try to keep the alcohol in one room and let your loved one know. or “Our holiday gathering this year will be alcohol-free.”
- Take Care of Yourself Too: Supporting someone in recovery can be challenging; practice self-care so you’re able to provide support in a healthy, balanced way.
- Establish your own boundaries and maintain healthy habits like good nutrition, enough sleep, and regular self-care.
By following these tips, you can support your loved one in navigating the holiday season with strength and resilience. Remember, recovery is a journey, and your support can make a significant difference. If you or a loved one is struggling this holiday season, we are always here if you need us. Call 888-991-7351.
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